Wedding Planning Anxieties

I have been so wedding stressed out lately. Last night, I laid in bed for hours last night just thinking about all of the things that I still need to do, decorations to buy, things I have to make, questions I need to ask, people I need help from. There are 48 days until my wedding (!!!!) but, good gracious, it might kill me before it gets here. I am just feeling very overwhelmed.

I had a dream two nights ago that I went to have my wedding dress altered and when I went to pick it up, the seamstress has dyed it purple and made it into a tulle romper. I am not good at confronting people or saying no, and I didn’t want to hurt the seamstress’s feelings so when she asked if I liked it, I said, “ It’s different than what I was expecting.” But everyone else absolutely loved it and thought it would be so modern and chic, so I just paid for it and had to wear it like that on my wedding day.

Then I had a dream last night that my wedding photographer forgot about the wedding. I didn’t even notice she wasn’t there until the reception. So she just decided not to come and we didn’t have wedding pictures despite paying the ridiculous amount we’re paying. During this whole photography debacle, my dress turned yellow and I was freaking out – I couldn’t wear a dress that was yellow! So I had to wear a dress someone just went and bought really fast at the nearest department store.


My mother and I went to the ballroom Saturday morning. We had a lot of questions about the floor plan and how many people and tables could fit on the floor with room still for dancing, etc. We got them all answered and I feel a little better about that now, knowing that there will be enough room for everything. However, we weren’t planning on doing a seating plan and the lady there highly recommended we do one.

I’m a little bit split on this, though. Two hundred people can sit on the ballroom floor, but then any number exceeding that (we may/may not have up to 50 – still waiting on RSVPs for a final head count) have to sit in the balcony. If I created a seating chart, I could ensure that elderly people could sit on the floor and not have to climb the stairs to the balcony. Also if we are full (the ballroom holds max 250) and a group of people arrive, but there are only scattered seats left, they will have to split up and won’t be able to sit together. Plus I think it will just overall be less chaotic if everyone knows where their seat is.

On the flip side, I then have to choose who has to sit in the balcony and they have to sit away from everyone else/have a harder time seeing everything. Then there are also going to be people who don’t like where I have them sitting and I’m sure will voice their opinions (*cough*grandpa*cough*). Plus it’s a lot of work haha.

My mom is really opposed to the seating chart, but I’m kind of leaning towards it. Do you guys have any thoughts on this? Have you been to a wedding before where the seating chart was great/disastrous? I have been to both: one wedding it was really nice knowing I had a seat the whole night and it was mine! The other two I had to sit far away from friends and with a bunch of people I didn’t know which was a bit awkward.

Then I think I just need to do what I want to do because it is my wedding and I need to stop trying to please everyone. Ahhhh. My head hurts just thinking about it all.

After we went to the ballroom, we did some shopping for some decoration projects – that was a complete failure. Turns out the small and simple projects I had in mind were going to end up costing hundreds of dollars which I hadn’t budgeted for. It’s just hard saying no to something that you love and know will be perfect. But I just can’t justify spending that much money on small decorations so I’m trying to find things that I still like that are more affordable, but so far have just had to settle with something that is just cheap and that will work – even if it isn’t cute.

With all that being said and done, I did have a small silver lining at the end of the night: I was ordering some mailing return labels with Andrew and I’s name on it. A friend had suggested I get some that way I can slap them on thank you notes and whiz through them, not having to handwrite our names and address over and over again. I was typing in our names, Andrew & Rebecca Smith, and just had to take a moment and soak in that line and how good it sounds.

And that’s when I knew that all this stress and anxiety and my empty wallet doesn’t really matter all that much – because in the end I get to marry my best friend and I couldn’t be happier.

7 thoughts on “Wedding Planning Anxieties”

  1. That’s the thing, you forget about all those small things and marry your best friend. <3

    It's coming up soon and I wish you and your fiance so much happiness! I too, have had stress and anxiety but about moving. It's totally crazy, and it's stressing me out badly, but alas, at the time and day, everything goes exactly how it should be. <3

  2. The last line of this made me just oh-em-geeeeeeeee. You’re right, all this stress will disappear and you are finding ways to make it a bit easier. Sometimes you have to make small sacrifices, and I’m sure that getting cheaper decorations doesn’t mean any less than how special the damn day will be! It’s a shame that what you thought was simple was going to end up costing way more… but I am sure you will still find an affordable way to decorate and spruce things up.

    Forget those dreams haha, you’re gonna be living it by the time your day rolls around.

    Wish I could be at your wedding!!!!!! <3 <3

  3. I am so excited for you! The nightmares sound terrible, but it is probably just your brain overreacting because of the anxious last minute preparation setting in. All the weddings I attended have seating plans to them. It ensures that everyone gets a spot with people they know. Usually family is seated together based on the oldest in the group and then co workers and friends get people they know at their tables. I high suggest it. It makes it easier for you knowing everyone is accounted for, plus usually we put family (mediate) in the front area close to the head table, because they should be there, when there is no seating plan some people take it as an invite to sit somewhere a family member may want to sit.

    The last line of this post is the best. I cannot wait to see pictures, At the end of the day the only thing that really matters is you are marrying your best friend, everything could go wrong but you won’t notice because you will be on cloud 9, don’t stress just soak it all up and enjoy it!

  4. I haven’t read your blog for ages and ages, and now you’re getting married? That is so cool!!!! Congratulations!
    The planning is so stressful but that day will be fantastic. I remember being totally exhausted after our wedding though, lol!
    It will be great, good luck with all the planning stuff!

  5. I totally get what you mean; planning a wedding is both a wonderful and stressful process! Your nightmare sounds really scary and I’m sure it’s part of the jitters (especially now that the big day is so near but you still have lots to get done), but with great people behind you as you plan your special day, everything will turn out just fine.

    Personally, I like it better when there are seat plans because I get to know exactly where my seat is. Plus, a good seat plan will ensure that I am seated with the people I know or am close to which, in turn, will make the day really fun for everybody. But that’s my opinion! :)

    That last line is so aww <3 But I totally agree that everything's worth it because you have the best guy in the world by your side when all the fuss is over :)

    PS: Your names sound great together <3

  6. First off, congratulations! Very happy for both of you. Planning a wedding can be very stressful but totally worth it! Most weddings I’ve been to have open seating. One side for the bride and one side for the groom, so I was able to sit with my friends and family. Best of lock. I’m sure the wedding will be fantastic!

  7. Aahh, I know the feeling of wedding stress. But when you think about it, the guests won’t know if something doesn’t go to plan! The important part is to enjoy your day and just go with the flow :) Plus, most wedding vendors have done this a million times, so it’ll probably turn out just fine!

    As for the seating chart, I think it’s a good idea, and we did it for our wedding as well. I’ve been to many weddings, and it definitely feels better to know where I’m going to sit instead of figuring it out myself. On weddings where I didn’t know anybody else, it was a relief to know that I was assigned a table instead of awkwardly figuring out where to sit. For other weddings where I knew a bunch of people, it was much easier for us to sit together because we were already assigned to the same table.

    Good luck with everything! I’m sure it’ll be great!

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