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My Identity is not in my Grades

This semester has been really rough for me. Usually by now, which is about the halfway point in the semester, I know how I’m doing in all of my classes. But if you would have asked me Monday how I was doing and how my classes were going, my answers would have been, respectively, bad and I’ve no idea.

All of my classes this semester except for one have exactly two tests (or they say two midterms, which is weird) and then a final and a paper or some other small assignments that are worth very little of my grade. So my grade is staked basically on two tests and a final, which is a lot for me to worry about. Last week and this week I had round one of tests/research papers and it was stressful to say the least. I found out my results for my Statistics class – I got an A on my test and I was totally not expecting that. Then I also got my Environmental Science research paper back, on which I also got an A.

So I’m a little more relieved now because I have an idea of how I’m doing in two of my classes, but my others I don’t really know. And through this whole thing, I realized that I need encouragement to keep my going in my classes. If I see that I’m doing well in my classes, then it gives me the motivation to keep working hard in my classes. If I don’t get any feedback at all, it freaks me out. I couldn’t figure out why this semester was so hard for me and it was simply because I wasn’t getting any feedback on my grades so I didn’t know how I was doing. I was kind of giving up last week because I didn’t receive that encouragement that I needed.

I’ve also learned that, no matter what I say, I will never be satisfied with anything that is not an A. While that can be a good thing, it really stresses me out and whenever I’m not doing so well in a class, I beat myself up about it. For example, on my first Macroeconomics test we took, I got an 88%. I think we can all agree that that is a decent grade, even a good grade, but after my instructor handed the test back, I was really angry. At first I was angry at myself because I didn’t study enough or didn’t understand the concepts or care enough about the class. But then I started displacing that anger on my instructor because I thought he wasn’t teaching it clearly enough because, if he was, I would have gotten an A. And then I started beating myself up. I started thinking, “Economics is a basic class and you can’t even get an A. Everyone else in class understands it but you. Why can’t you even get an A in a basic introductory class?”

I’m not even happy when I receive a really high A. If I get an A-, I’m kind of upset. I realize that it’s a good grade, but I also tell myself, you can do a bit better next time. When I got a 100% on my research paper in Env. Sci, I was just like, “Good, that’s what I deserved.” That was my goal, and if I wouldn’t have hit my goal, I would’ve done exactly what I did on my Economics test, get mad and upset and beat myself up. While my good marks are encouraging, they don’t even make me happy. It’s just I work, work, work for that grade and when I get it, time to move on for that next test and work, work, work, work, work, and better get that A. It’s exhausting.

Even as I’m writing this post, I keep telling myself that I should be studying for one of my mid-terms that I have tomorrow. That if I don’t study enough, I’m not going to do well (a.k.a. not get an A). Since I have friends in there, it’s like I have to get an A to prove that… I don’t even know what I’m trying to prove! That I’m smart? It’s a Theater Appreciation class, at that, so it’s not like it really matters (unless of course you’re super into theater or are going into theater).

It’s all in my head, and it’s all absolutely ridiculous. Because I got that “unsatisfactory” grade on that test, I studied for four hours last night for a quiz that we had today in there. I just keep thinking, I can’t keep doing this, beating myself up and running myself until I’m so utterly exhausted that I just want to curl up in a ball and sleep.

I put so much pride in my grades that I almost make it my identity, that I have to be that girl that makes straight A’s. That’s who I am. And if I don’t even achieve that, what does that make me? But that’s so silly to stake my identity on a mark on a piece of paper. How can I let that just define me? If someone were to look at my grades and know nothing else about me, they might think, “Oh, she’s a good student.” And that’s it. They still don’t know anything about me.

So I just keep telling myself to take deep breaths and that my identity is not in my grades, my identity is in Christ. If I don’t get that A, I still have a Savior that loves me, friends and family that love me, and a boyfriend that loves me. So I just need to chill the heck out. Like, someone slap me and tell me to stop being so ridiculous!

College Snow Days > High School Snow Days


Last night we got around a foot of snow and I haven’t had so much snow in a really long time. We had heard that a huge storm was coming in, but usually my luck with snow is that the forecast is for a lot, and then it usually goes north or south of where I am and I don’t get any. But that didn’t happen this time! All of my friends were talking about how excited they would be if class got cancelled and the entire time I was just bracing myself for the fact that it wouldn’t be cancelled.

But then I got a text this morning around 4:00 AM telling me that classes would be cancelled because of inclement weather. I was soo happy I could sleep in! I’ve been going to bed really late, so sleeping in until around 11:00 AM this morning was absolutely fantastic. Me and my roommate bundled up and trekked through the snow to the caf, which doesn’t sound all that fun, but it was amazing!

There streets hadn’t been plowed very well and none of the sidewalks were shoveled, so we just ran through the knee-high snow and streets like crazy people, baha. There were some snow drifts that were as tall as us! We couldn’t even find the stairs in some places and the snow was so compacted. Then, to top it all off, we got to the caf and they were serving chicken parmesan, which is my favorite.

I have quite a few tests coming up next week and a research paper due pretty soon (over a river system – how lame) so I spent this afternoon catching up on some study and researching. I was pretty disappointed because I just wanted to go out and play in the snow, so I took my laptop and set it on the microwave in front of the window so I could watch the snow fall and do my homework. It was so pretty! Alysha kept laughing at me. :P

A group of friends and I met up when it started to get dark to go sledding. None of us had actual sleds so we just got cardboard boxes and lids from big storage containers, baha. We looked pretty ghetto, but that’s all part of the fun, right? The cardboard boxes ended up working really well, though the lids not so much. I was just using my lid to scoop up snow and throw it at people, mwaha! I only was wearing my jeans, however, and I was frolicking through the snow like a dog (not literally) so my jeans ended up getting soaked really fast. I was shivering the rest of the night. Andrew and the guys played capture the flag and he was so proud of himself that he won both games, haha.

I got in the shower when I got back but had to turn it off because the warm water hurt my legs so bad. So I’m not curled up in my bed in my jammies and trying to warm up. Alysha hasn’t seen the Lord of the Rings movies before (which is so crazy!! Especially since I’m such a nerd and watch them every spring break, haha) so we’re currently on number two. I had to educate her about Middle-earth! :P

We’re supposed to get a little more snow tonight, so it would be wonderful if classes were cancelled again tomorrow, but I don’t think they will be. Besides, I’ve had such a blast today.If we don’t have class, I’m definitely spending all day in the snow again! Andrew doesn’t like the snow much (which a part of me dies a little bit every time he says that) but I’ll drag him along anyways. :D

My university is really close to a really popular shopping center in Kansas City called the Plaza, and on Tuesday there was a gas main leak and an explosion in one of the restaurants. I wasn’t affected by it at all, but most people living in the plaza were evacuated and there were around fifteen people injured. It was really scary and it was national news. One of my professors couldn’t teach one of my classes this week since he had been evacuated. Anyhow, if you could keep those injured and those affected in your thoughts and prayers. <3